“Things don’t go wrong and break your heart so you can become bitter and give up. They happen to break you down and build you up so you can be all you were intended to be”
– Charlie Jones
Happy New Year!!
Wow! A lot was thrown at us in 2016. Just when we thought we could not survive and endure, we did. In the process we realized we could conquer anything!
Personally I am surprised at my own resilience because 2016 was one of the most difficult years of my life. I also believe it was my last year of difficulty because I finally accepted that the difficulties were necessary. From that acceptance came amazing growth.
In the coming months, I will share details of what I learned and how I have or will apply the lessons to 2017. My intent is to remind you all that you are strong and capable of anything. We will grow together!
Here is what I learned in 2016, which will be applied in 2017:
1) Know Your Why
When I first started teaching yoga, I did not know why I wanted to teach. Until 8 months ago, I was imitating another person’s craft and trying to pass it off as my own. Therefore, it was no surprise that I struggled to reach others because the message wasn’t mine.
The truth was, I did not think what I had to offer was of value to anyone. That thought was reinforced by experiences such as my worst job ever as well as the company I had surrounded myself with. However, when I left that job and those people, I found my voice and discovered my why.
Because I know my why, I am now clear with the intentions to be shared with all of you. Most important, I am able to be of service to others.
For 2017, I ask you all to discover your why. This topic will show up again, in greater detail. For now, just absorb this statement: Know your why.
2) Find Your Tribe
Have you felt yourself becoming negative when you hang around a negative person? What about when you have surrounded yourself with other yogis? Have you noticed a change in the gear you wear or use in class? And maybe acaí and cold-pressed juices are new additions to your food family.
You are the company you keep. Make a solid effort to surround yourself with the best and brightest.
3) Failure is a Gift
Failure is not seen as something positive. Rather, we are groomed to see failure as something terrible and tragic. And when we do fail, we are not taught how to rise from that failure.
Let me assure you that failure is a HUGE gift. Let’s start seeing failure not as something awful, but as something necessary. From failure we learn powerful lessons that set us on the path to greatness.
4) Growth Does Not Happen Overnight
There are no quick fixes to anything. Don’t expect a windfall of change after watching a webinar or reading an article from Yoga Journal or Forbes.
Have patience because growth is a journey.
5) Express Gratitude
I experienced a kind of loss I never thought would enter my life because I “did all of the right things”. And guess what? That loss was the best thing to happen to me because I learned what it means to be grateful for everything, large and small.
This year, I challenge you to express gratitude for the opportunity to wake up each day. Each day is another opportunity to create the life you want.
6) Self Inquiry is a MUST
Through the process of self-inquiry I was able to become very clear with my goals and values. That clarity also included facing what was uncomfortable and ugly. And now I am better for it. Self-inquiry is something I will do annually.
Take the time to check in with yourself. I promise that you will gain clarity in ways that could enhance the wonderful life you are living.
Exercise is one of the best things you can do to honor yourself. You don’t need to spend hours in the gym in order to reap the benefits, and you don’t have to leave your home or office. You honestly don’t have to wear shoes. You just need to move.
8) Quitting Does Not Make You a Quitter
Honor yourself and set boundaries. When you walk away, you are walking towards something or someone that is better suited for you.
9) Shift Your Perspective and See All That Is Positive
Why is it that when we walk into a room or arrive at a new place we start looking for what is wrong or will go wrong? Let’s change that.
For 2017, look for all that is nice and good. Find what is positive in order to attract all that is positive.
10) Think Big
My father once told me, “If you think poor, you’ll act poor.” The same applies to your life. If you think small, you’ll stay small.
However when you think big…
11) Love Yourself
Be your best champion and remember that you are more than enough.